He Called Off the Wedding

Picture this. It is a week before your wedding date, the location is booked, the invitations went out, the cake has been ordered, the flowers are on order, you pre-booked the photographer, and paid for your honeymoon in Fuji. Your excitement is so uncontainable and you are on a high like you never felt before. Your about to marry your groom, your best friend, your soul mate - the one your going to share your life with. Then it happens. Your fiance, he called off the wedding.

When you find out, it is like a ton of bricks smacked you right in the head. You do not care about the money that was spent or the fact that the guests will be disappointed. You do not care about much else. You are hurt, bewildered, and crushed. You say to yourself how can he do this? To me? To us? Worst yet, the love of your life does not want to talk you - just yet. He is confused.

Wow! What a ride. You got the wind knocked out of you but there is hope. You can get your fiance back. You can salvage your relationship and ultimately have the wedding called back on. How you might ask?

Step One:

You have to give your groom-to-be the space that he needs to think and work through his emotions. But let him know, through a call, text message, or his parents that you love him and are here for him. Now, it is not to say that he does not love you because he called off the wedding. It is just to say that you are going to have to respect the process of his cold feet and second thoughts. You have to keep reminding yourself that...he asked you.

Step Two:

Once you have done the first step - the ball is in his court. If you want your fiance back this is important. He knows you love him and as a gentleman, he will contact you to clear the air. However, you must be let him come to you.

Step Three:

For your sanity, and your peace of mind, get your mind off this whole situation. I mean, you are stressed out and emotionally drained. Rely on your family and friends during this whole process. Go do the things that you enjoy with your friends. Let them be your sense of happiness during this time.

Step Four:

When your ex fiance (who is really not your ex fiance) calls, suggest to meet in person at your favorite café or restaurant. Go meet him with a clear mind and open heart. No yelling or blaming or accusing. Got it? You are trying to get him back and this is a good and important step in getting him back and getting your love, your relationship and your wedding back on track. Good luck.