My Boyfriend Says He Loves Me But Doesn't Want to Be With Me! What You Need to Do

If we're fortunate in life we meet the man of our destiny, fall in love with him, marry and build a life together that is based on mutual respect and a deep and unwavering commitment to each other. That's the stuff that fairytales are made of. We all want that. All women long to be with a man who adores them and can't seem to get enough of them. What happens if you've gone through the part where you meet the man of your destiny, you fall in love with him and he then decides you don't fit into his role of what a fairytale princess should be? If you're a woman who is now saying, "my boyfriend says he loves me but doesn't want to be with me," you're facing a difficult crossroads. Do you accept that he just doesn't care for you the way you want him to or do you take steps to change what he feels so he's in love with you forever? You want a future with him, don't you? If you do, don't give up just yet.

When a woman says to a friend, "my boyfriend says he loves me but doesn't want to be with me," she's almost always greeted with the same response. The friend will cringe and then say how sorry she is. That well meaning friend will often also go so far as to say that the woman can do better and the boyfriend just isn't worth it. Perhaps this scenario has taken place in your life already, maybe more than once. If you look to the people who love you for advice, they're going to instantly want to protect you. They don't want your heart to take any more abuse so they'll tell you that you can do better. What could possibly be better than the man you love more than anyone in the world? You really need to steer clear of talking about this with friends. They just can't be as objective as you need them to be.

The fact that he says he loves you is monumental. He may have prefaced it by saying he only loves you as a friend or he isn't in love with you anymore. You shouldn't fall apart emotionally at that distinction. He's actually telling you, in a complicated way, that the emotional connection he once felt just isn't there for him anymore. That happens sometimes in relationships and it doesn't have to mean everything needs to end. You have to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Take the love that he does feel for you and transform that back into a feeling of immense in love as opposed to just love.

One of the best ways to do that is to make some self improvements. I'm not advocating that you go on a crash diet or change your personality. I am suggesting that you work on improving the things about yourself that you know he doesn't find appealing. Perhaps your temper sometimes wins out over your better judgment or maybe you'd prefer to stay in each night whereas he wants to go out to dinner and a movie sometimes. If you think about what you can do to make yourself more appealing to him, that's going to make a difference in how he feels about you.

Keeping things fresh and new is also important if you want to keep your boyfriend from breaking up with you. Plan some unexpected dates for the two of you to go on. If he's already suggested that you see less of each other, suggest outings that are based on friendship. Doing things like hitting a hiking trial or going boating will rev up his interest again. Keep him on his toes if you want to make him fall back in love with you again.