Top 10 Traps to Avoid When You Want to Say "No"

This tiny two-letter word can be hardest word to say, the only word to say, or the one word that causes the most trouble.
Do you recognize any of these excuses? Try looking at it from the alternate point of view.
1.
It will hurt their feelings.
It will hurt your feelings if you don't say it.
2.
It doesn't really matter that much.
Then why do you want to say it? 3.
There will be a big fight.
It takes two to fight, so don't.
4.
They'll never understand.
Explain it once then give them time to get it.
5.
Nobody likes to be disappointed.
Disappointment is part of life.
The sooner one learns to live with it and move forward the better.
6.
It's just too hard.
The easy way out is spelled r-e-s-e-n-t-m-e-n-t.
7.
Honesty is not the best policy.
Is it about being honest or is it about being true to yourself? 8.
I'll never be asked again.
If no makes you a no-body, then just say it and move on to someone who isn't so insecure.
9.
I don't know how.
Look in the mirror and practice.
No, no, no.
Not now.
No, I won't.
It's not for me.
I don't want to.
No way.
No how.
NO.
10.
I can't.
Yes you can.
See above, #9.
When your voice in your head says the word, say it out loud.
Nicely, politely, firmly, meaningfully.
Saying the word, no, can be contrary or obstinate, or it can be truthful and meaningful.
There are probably a hundred explanations why it is difficult.
Thank of it this way.
Saying 'no' to someone or something can be saying 'yes' to yourself.
It's the emotional version of a strong backbone.
Keeps you upright.