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Is Your Life On Hold? - Conflict and Values
- Married someone who isn't your personality match?
- Don't have much in common?
- Go through each day feeling stressed and misunderstood?
- Always hoping things will improve but not believing they will?
- Can't be yourself?
- Don't enjoy or look forward to intimate moments?
- Know you'd be better matched with the person across the street (but they're married)
I can't relate to her not being a people person.
Being a salesperson is mentally and emotionally demanding and she can't relate to me on this level thus I feel drained when in her company.
We actually repel like opposite magnets.
She doesn't enjoy most the values I have and visa versa.
Our values are poles apart and since his sense of humor and in fact most everything he does is in conflict with my values I'm finding it increasingly difficult to laugh and have fun with him.
Our days invariably end in some disagreement usually always over our value and personality differences and almost without fail the words, I can't stand this and divorce come into the conversation.
When we met he'd say, You're the family and picket fence type! Not me, my home is my vehicle and wherever I decide to stop.
I make my own environment! Of course I used to deny his fenced-in view of me, saying I wanted to travel and didn't need a fixed abode.
Easy to say when you're not totally in touch with who you are due to having had little life experience and besides, that kind of lifestyle always had sounded very exciting.
But he was right because although I love to travel I also want the security of a home and it would be nice to share that with someone of like mind.
Food for Thought: Perhaps it is just the security of sharing your life with someone you can relate to that you really want or NEED.
Wouldn't that make a home? You may have chosen to be with this person because you could hide in their self assuredness and be taken care of.
It's not unusual to be afraid to end what you have for fear of the unknown but ultimately, wouldn't it make you more happy being with a like-minded person? Should you consider divorce?