Warning Signs of Cheating

Changes in Intimacy

• If your partner is cheating on you, he may not want to be intimate with you any longer. When you try to initiate intimate contact, even if it is only a hug, he is likely to pull away from you or seem apprehensive. Sex, even if your sex life was previously active, is likely one of the last things he wants to do with you. You may hear a lot of excuses, such as a headache or being too tired, about why he isn't into intimate contact.
  
  

Lack of Communication

• When your significant other is having an affair, she is likely sharing her thoughts with the other person. She may not tell you she loves you as much as she did before the affair started. She may not want to talk about her day. The things she does say to you may seem odd. Betty W. Phillips, Ph.D., states that people who cheat often lie and are deceitful. When you think your partner is being unfaithful, try to keep track of the things she is telling you and you may catch her telling you a lie.
  
  

Change in Habits

• Most people who cheat begin to take more of an interest in how they look, which may mean changing the way they dress and wear makeup, shaving more often or getting a new haircut. In addition to changes in grooming habits, a cheater may start to get secretive about phone calls, texts, emails and chat sessions. He may leave for work earlier than normal or stay at work late. He also may begin to show interest in new things. For example, a man who hasn't ever cared about football may suddenly take an interest in it if that is something the other woman likes.
  
  

Mood Swings

• Some cheaters have severe mood swings that can go from trying to spoil you with presents one day to starting arguments with you the next. These mood swings are often the result of what is happening with the affair. For example, if your partner gets into a fight with the person she is cheating on you with, she may take her anger out on you. In some cases, you may even notice that the mood swings occur right after a conversation on the phone or a session on the computer.
  
  

Missing Money

• Your partner may become secretive or defensive about finances if he is having an affair. You may notice that he is spending more money than usual. This is because he is probably buying the other woman things or spending money to do things with her. If you ask about where the money is going, he may accuse you of not trusting him or he may lie about where it is going.