A Few Ways To Help In Coping With A Sibling"s Suicide

There are several reasons as to why a person may choose to end his/her life, but most often than not, it is because he/she wants the pain, whether physically and/or emotionally, to end.
However, while their immediate problem will come to an end, they will have inflicted terrible pain on their loved ones.
Indeed, when a loved one dies by suicide, it can be very devastating.
How can you move on without him/her? What would life be like without your beloved brother/sister? Recently, there has been a lot of media coverage on what is called Cyber Bullying, and sadly and disturbingly, teenage suicide has been linked to it.
In one of the deaths, it is reported that a younger sister was the person who found the body of her older sister.
We can all hope and pray that no other brother/sister would ever have to witness such a tragedy ever again.
With this in mind, the following two suggestion are put forth with the intention of helping those who are coping with the lost of a sibling.
Don't Make Sense Of It Do not drive yourself farther into despair by trying to make some sense out of this act.
Yes, you may not be able to stop yourself from continually rehashing the final moments of your loved one's life and as you think on it, you may ask yourself many questions.
Questions such as, why didn't you call him/her a few seconds earlier, why didn't you see the signs, why did he/she chose this path and the questions may go on and on.
Perhaps in the past, you might have heard or saw in numerous films that a person who takes their life, always leaves a note explaining, why he/she choose that path.
However, in daily living, this is not always the case.
Yes, sometimes there are no notes.
Additionally even if a note is found, it may not explain why that path was taken.
Therefore, unless you have a clear understanding as to why he/she had taken their life, do not drive yourself to despair by trying to make sense of it.
Forgive him/her And Yourself It could be that you are very angry with your sibling for committing suicide and it may be that you are also angry with yourself for not doing something or perhaps more, to have prevented it from happening.
Well, if you are angry with him/her, it is okay, but sooner rather than later, you will need to come to the point of forgiveness, so that you can heal.
Yes, you need to forgive so that you can move forward.
On the other hand though, you may believe that his/her death was your fault because you did not do anything to stop it.
No, it is not your fault and if you still do not believe that, it is time for you forgive yourself for whatever you may or may not have done to contribute to this action.
Forgive him/her and forgive yourself so that healing can begin.