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Whether you have already chosen adoption as the best option for you or whether you are considering the idea.
Some birthmothers prepare themselves mentally for adoption by thinking of herself as a surrogate mother.
She is having this baby for this couple that she has chosen (yes! You CAN choose and meet the family for your child!) Birthmothers who have other children often talk to them about her plan for adoption in this way.
She tells them that she is having this baby for "John and Mary" who want to be parents so bad but they cannot have a baby in their tummy like most people.
They start to think of the baby as "John and Mary's baby" not their baby.
It also helps to think about and write down all the reasons WHY you are thinking about adoption or have chosen adoption for your child.
Keep that list! When the baby comes and you have this tiny little baby, sometimes you tend to forget all the reasons why you made that plan to begin with.
This is when you have to think with your head and not with your heart.
That tiny little baby is going to grow up! He or she will not stay little for very long.
You have to think about their WHOLE LIFE...
not just the immediate.
It helps if you can keep the full picture in your mind...
18 years of commitment to this little person.
Open Adoption is so amazing today.
In the old days, you had a baby, they took it away, you never saw it, never met the parents, never heard from them again.
Kind of harsh, wouldn't you say? But today is SO much different! Now you can meet the family, spend time with them, go to doctor appointments, shopping.
Doesn't it make sense for you to KNOW the person you are entrusting your child to? Many couples develop life long friendships with their birth mothers.
It helps to talk to someone...
someone who will listen, not judge; who will support you whatever decision you make.
Placing a baby for adoption is not easy.
It's hard and you are courageous to do it, or think about it.
You are the angels.
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