Visiting Someone"s Place

Japanese seem to have many formal phrases for certain actions. When visiting your superior or somebody for the first time, these phrases will be helpful to express your gratitude. Here are some common expressions you are likely to use when visiting Japanese homes.

At the Door

Guest

• Konnichiwa. ?????｡
• Gomen kudasai. ???????｡

Host

• Irasshai. ??????｡
• Irassaimase. ????????｡
• Yoku irasshai mashita. ???????????｡

• Youkoso. ????｡

"Gomen kudasai" literally means, "Please forgive me for bothering you." It is often used when visiting someone's home. "Irassharu" is the honorific form (keigo) of the verb "kuru (to come)." All four expressions for a host mean "Welcome." "Irasshai" is less formal than other expressions. It should not be used when a guest is superior to a host.

When You Enter the Room

Host

• Douzo oagari kudasai. ???????????｡ --- Please come in.
• Douzo ohairi kudasai. ??????????｡
• Douzo kochira e. ???????｡ --- This way, please.

Guest

• Ojama shimasu. ???????｡ --- Excuse me.
• Shitsurei shimasu. ?????｡

"Douzo" is very useful expression and means, "please." The Japanese use it quite often. "Douzo oagari kudasai" literally means, "Please come up." This is because Japanese houses usually have an elevated floor in the entrance (genkan) and step up to go into the house. Then, a well known tradition --- take off your shoes at the genkan. You might want to make sure your socks don't have any holes before visiting Japanese homes!

A pair of slippers is often offered to wear in the house. When you enter a tatami (a straw mat) room, you should remove slippers.

"Ojama shimasu" literally means, "I'm going to get in your way" or " I will disturb you." It is used as a polite greeting when entering someone's home. "Shitsurei shimasu" literally means, "I'm going to be rude." This expression is used in various situations. When entering someone's house or room, it means "Excuse my interrupting." When leaving it is used as "Excuse my leaving" or "Good-bye."

When Giving a Gift

• Tsumaranai mono desu ga ... ??????????… --- Here is something for you.
• Kore douzo. ?????｡ --- This is for you.

The Japanese customary bring a gift when visiting someone's home. The expression "Tsumaranai mono desu ga ..." is very Japanese. It literally means, "This is an trifling thing, but please accept it." It might sound strange to you. Why anyone brings such a thing as a gift? This is a humble expression. The humble form (kenjougo) is used when a speaker wants to lower his/her position. Therefore, this expression is often used to your superior, in spite of the true value of the gift. When giving a gift to your close friend or other informal occasions, "Kore douzo" will do it.

When Your Host Begins to Prepare Drinks or Food for You

• Douzo okamainaku. ????????｡ --- Please don't go to any trouble.

When Drinking or Eating

Host

• Douzo meshiagatte kudasai. ?????????????｡ --- Please help yourself.

Guest

• Itadakimasu. ??????｡ --- (Before Eating)
• Gochisousama deshita. ?????????｡ --- (After Eating)

"Meshiagaru" is the honorific form of the verb "taberu (to eat)." "Itadaku" is a humble form of the verb "morau (to receive)." However, "Itadakimasu" is a fixed expression used before eating or drinking. After eating "Gochisousama deshita" is used to express appreciation for the food. "Gochisou" literally means, "a feast." There is no religious significance of these phrases.

When Thinking about Leaving

• Sorosoro shitsurei shimasu. ?????????｡ --- It is about time I should be leaving.

"Sorosoro" is a useful phrase for leaving. In informal situations, you could say "Sorosoro kaerimasu (It's about time for me to go home)," "Sorosoro kaerou ka (Shall we go home soon?)" or just "Ja sorosoro ... (Well, it's about time ...)" etc.

When Leaving Someone's Home

• Ojama shimashita. ???????｡ --- Excuse me.

"Ojama shimashita" literally means, "I got in the way." It is often used when leaving someone's home.