My Wife Wants to Separate - How This May Actually Save Your Marriage

"My wife wants to separate and I want to save our marriage.
" When a man says that he's obviously feeling very disconnected in every way possible from his wife.
She sees the end of the marriage on the horizon and he can't bring himself to look in that direction.
If your wife has told you that she feels that a trial separation is in order and you don't, your natural instinct is going to be to do whatever you can to stop it from happening.
You really need to take a step back and survey the entire situation before you do something rash and make a mistake you`ll soon come to regret.
With the announcement that your wife wants to separate should come understanding.
Something isn't working within the relationship for her.
If you try and fight her on the idea of a separation, you are essentially negating her feelings and opinion.
Right now she's probably feeling very emotional overwrought.
If you come at her full force begging her to stay with you, she may feel so weak and ungrounded that she'll simply agree to it.
When that happens the couple continues to live in conflict, and the only difference now is the wife resents her husband for not recognizing or respecting her needs.
Reconsider what you're feeling if she's expressed her need for some time apart.
You have to view a separation as a tool towards a better understanding and appreciation of each other.
Often, when a married couple decides to take the serious step to live apart, they quickly discover that they belong together.
All your wife may need is a bit of time to herself to clearly think about what you mean to her and how crucial it is to her to save the marriage.
By listening to your wife's needs and then accepting them, you're showing her that you are putting her before yourself.
She needs to feel that at the moment.
That one act can be the catalyst for change within the relationship.
Express to her your genuine reservations about a separation.
Quickly follow that up with acknowledgment that you're ready to give her what she needs.
Ensure she knows how much you love her and that you're willing to take the necessary steps to save the marriage and show her that you two do belong together.
By being on her side and giving her what she needs in an emotional sense, you'll be healing the conflict that is present in your relationship.
Naturally, it will be heart wrenching when she does make the move to separate, but with the right attitude and insight, you can use it as a means to a happily ever after for your marriage.