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Do any of the questions below apply to your situation? Have you ever felt, or, have you been told by your husband that he resents your current marital state? Did you ever feel that you just don't understand why it is so hard for him to utter love expressions to you at times other than when the two of you are being intimate? Have you ever wondered how you can move him to make you feel more loved.
If you answer YES, to either of these questions, I have good news for you! If you are willing, there are some simple, completely practical steps you can take.
I will discuss these in a series of articles.
This will be Part One.
Why I Can Help You I am a 55 year-old married father of two married lovely adult daughters.
My dear wife and I have been married for more than thirty-six years.
Yes, I know.
We got married with we were both teenagers.
Of course, looking back, we know that was much too young; which is why we insisted that our daughters not marry as teenagers.
Frankly, you barely know yourself, let alone knowing a mate! I am not a therapist.
Neither am I a licensed marriage counselor.
Frankly, I do not need to be either to share the benefit of my personal experience.
You see, I believe that, just as, only a woman can fully explain how women feel; only a man can fully and genuinely express the feelings of men, in this case, married men.
In fact, I have often asked my wife, "what do women see in men anyway?" No, I am not a self-hating male.
I'm a realist.
Most women simply do not get a 'fair shake' in this male-dominated society; particularly, married women.
If there is one thing I have learned in marriage, it's this: Men and women communicate on entirely different 'wave lengths.
' The good news is that, if you are a wife, it's possible to 'adjust your settings for a clearer reception' in a manner of speaking.
Here is a first step.
Accept That Your Husband Really Wants to Care(Even if it seems that he doesn't) What I mean is; just because you haven't seen, or, heard a display of loving affection, doesn't mean he doesn't want to care.
Actually, many husbands have difficulty focusing on a single matter that affects the marriage relationship, when he's 'juggling' what he perceives as several important responsibilities that need his attention.
Rather than criticize him for failing to 'get it;' first, commend him for his attempt to handle several tasks at one time.
Then, simply share HOW the problem you see in the marriage makes YOU feel.
Focus on HOW IT MAKES YOU FEEL; not on where he's failing.
Oftentimes, what may appear to be a lack of concern, is actually a difficulty in prioritizing on the part of our husband.
When you give him this 'leeway' and share how you feel about the problem, not about his failure, he will love you for it.
Go ahead give it a try.
Part 2 will be out shortly.
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